When parents separate one of the main issues of conflict relates to arrangements for the children. I am often contacted by distressed parents who are unable to reach an agreement with their former partner as to the weekly arrangements for their children And, often disputes flare up around annual events such as birthday’s, Father’s Day, Mother’s Day, the summer holidays and Christmas.
There’s been a lot of talk in the last week about so called ‘divorce week’ – the busiest week of the year for us family lawyers. Personally, I don’t think this is something to highlight. It’s like cheering when your team loses at football.
This week is sadly “celebrated” every year now, though there is still some disagreement over exactly which week is the busiest. Could we not use this spotlight though for the good, to highlight some lesser known things about divorce to help couples in crisis?
What about highlighting things people don’t know about divorce while we have a certain amount of media and potential client focus on us. Would this not be more useful?
The start of a New Year historically sees an influx of new clients making contact with us family lawyers to start off the divorce process. One of the first steps for a lawyer is discuss and consider the reasons for the relationship breakdown so that the necessary paperwork can be prepared. As family lawyers, we’re quite used to hearing reasons varying from infidelity, verbal and physical abuse right through to a lack of compassion, love and affection being demonstrated by one party to the other. After 20 odd years of practice, having heard some very unusual, and sometimes quite ridiculous, reasons, I honestly didn’t think there were any I hadn’t heard.
As divorce lawyers, we deal with people at a tough time in their life. I’m always on the lookout for advice that will help make a divorce better for all parties involved and whilst listening to an interesting piece on the radio the other day I starting thinking about the way that people approach their divorce and how their mindset can often have such a significant impact on the outcome.