The mental anguish caused by a relationship break-up and the problems that this can cause can so often be overlooked when there is so much else going on.
You might expect to be a little more under pressure than normal when going through a divorce. There is so much to think about, so much to sort out and yet daily life, with job, kids and a home, still has to go on. This may mean they are not looking after their own emotional well-being.
It is difficult to put a typical time on how long a divorce will take. We have said many times that the “quickie” divorce is a myth. The only thing that is quick is if the parties agree not to contest anything so the actual documentation is sorted very quickly. This doesn’t change the amount of time it takes for the court to process the paperwork and issue a decree nisi and, then, the decree absolute.
Divorce ultimately affects many people. It is not just those directly involved – the husband, wife and children – but wider families, grandparents, circles of friends, even workmates. However, it all starts with one party petitioning for a divorce.
There is no one answer to the question: what am I entitled to in a divorce settlement? Every case is different because the circumstances of every couple are different.
The Money Advice Service (MAS) offers a divorce settlement calculator but it does make a lot of assumptions and we would urge extreme caution if using a tool like this. In short, don’t get your hopes up or, conversely, get disheartened, if you do get a figure tumble out of the bottom after entering your details.
A common question I get asked during the divorce process from worried dads is: what rights do I have as a father?
The first thing to say in response to this is that the law is focused on, and based around, the needs and rights of the children, not those of the parents. It is what is best for the children. Often that will be to ensure a healthy, supportive relationship is maintained with both mum and dad. In broad terms, it is considered to be their right to have a relationship with both parents.