Divorce is not easy for anyone involved. The husband and wife, kids, grandparents, friends. Everyone will be affected in different ways. The key thing is to navigate the process and negotiations in as calm a sea as possible.
Baroness Deech has never been one to mince her words. Recently, she spoke of the urgent need to “clean-up” the divorce process, making it less inflammatory and antagonistic than it currently is.
As a family law solicitor for almost 30 years the most common question I am asked when I first speak to a client is “Will I lose my family home?” Clearly this is one of the most pressing concerns for people when it comes to separation and divorce and that is understandable. The family home is a treasured possession. Often the family have lived there for years, the children have grown up there and it’s a comfortable and familiar environment.
Over the years it has become apparent that in order to reach an agreement on financial claims within divorce proceedings people, both lawyers and clients, can approach things in a slightly haphazard manner which can create difficulties and ultimately add time, stress and cost, often unnecessarily.
As a divorce solicitor I speak daily to people who have already or are about to separate. For the vast majority their anxieties rest around their financial position. They want to get everything sorted financially and the last thing they want to discuss or even think about is taking what seems the dramatic step of issuing divorce proceedings. As an experienced family lawyer I have to offer them the best possible advice and explain their options so I find myself saying the same things each time – and that is that to get a legally binding financial agreement you need to start the divorce process.