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Spousal maintenance – good, bad, or just plain ugly?


Spousal maintenance.

Moving on from our recent blog Maintenance – how much do I need? in which we considered how “needs” might be determined when working out spousal maintenance, maybe what we should really ask is – should maintenance be payable at all?

As with many areas of family law, there is plenty of mythology around the basis of spousal maintenance – “he must provide me with a roof over my head” and the like. In fact, the court must always ask itself in every case whether there should be any maintenance at all. Can there be a “clean break”, an order which means that claims for spousal maintenance are dismissed right now?

Spousal maintenance vs clean break

Whilst you may think that having a court order which grants the payment of an amount of money each month for a number of years into the future is a good result for the recipient (very often the wife), the fact remains that any such order can always be altered. Either party, the payer or the recipient can apply to alter the terms of the court order and change the amount of maintenance paid. If the payer’s circumstances deteriorate or change, what had been envisaged as the future for both parties can end up looking radically different as time moves on.  

My own experience as a divorce and family lawyer is that most people prefer to have financial independence as soon as possible, rather than take the risk that their ex will continue to be able to afford to pay. When you consider that I’ve seen examples where an ex will choose to give up work rather than pay, you can understand why a clean break can be a better option. Unfortunately reality means that it is not possible to make the resources which gave a combined household a particular standard of living stretch to give two separate households that same standard of living once separated, and often there simply isn’t enough capital to allow for a clean break at the point of separation.

The impact of remarriage and cohabitation on spousal maintenance

A spousal maintenance order will possibly be significantly varied (or may even be discharged) in the event that the recipient forms a new long lasting cohabiting relationship (depending on the new partner’s financial circumstances), and will certainly end if the recipient re-marries. Many are attracted by the idea that they may only have to pay something for the short term, if they think that their ex will move on with a new partner.

Trends in spousal maintenance

The recent trend in the way courts are dealing with spousal maintenance must also be borne in mind. Coming from a traditional background of wives commonly seeking ongoing maintenance throughout their lifetime (unless they remarry), and being viewed from afar as the “divorce capital of the world” – it may be quite a wake up call to learn that courts are now far less inclined to order substantial ongoing support.  

One judge has taken quite a stand on this topic, stressing that wives should not be claiming that they have had a disadvantage in the job market because of choices they made during the marriage (such as staying at home to bring up the children). I am not quite sure how that follows personally, but it is being made perfectly plain that if wives can adjust to their new future circumstances without “undue” hardship, then they are expected to do so. Some “hardship” it appears, is acceptable.

Whether this heralds a new dawn of far more realistic aspirations for wives of how much they will receive in the future, or more likely, whether the trend will continue of capitalising as much of the possible maintenance claim wherever possible – remains to be seen. “Certainty” seems to be very much more in fashion in family law. But does this potentially risk us sacrificing “fairness”? We’ll have to wait and see.

Kate Butler
Divorce & family lawyer Northampton


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I am originally from Nepal but British citizen now. I have separated from my wife who I have been married to for 19 years and we have two children aged 12 and 16.  I had part time job 24 hours a week during the weekend which I have lost in may. I have been a househusband for 12 years as she own management consulting company and worked long hours so I was the one able to take care of children. We have a three bedroom house in joint name. Early this year she started to say that she needed some space from me and ask me to go to Nepal for few months and she me difficult so I decided to give her space and went to visit some friends and family in Europe but when I came back home she would not let me in the house and she file the divorce. I am 45 and she is 51. Now I am staying with friend and she makes me very difficult to see children as well. I lost the part-time job that I had and now I am looking for work and have not got enough money to do any training. What is my right to get spousal maintenance and access to the house or how to claim the spousal maintenance? Any information would be greatly appreciated as I have no idea if she is support me until a certain time or how it works. At this point I am getting no benefit or nothing but I am desperately looking for work. Your help would be much appreciated
Thank you very much for your help in advance.

By kul kadel on Monday October 29, 2018

Hello Kul - generally a husband is just as entitled to seek spousal maintenance as a wife.  The issues will be whether the money is needed by you (which seems to be clear from your comment), and whether your wife can afford to pay it.  If necessary you can make an application to the court to ask for spousal maintenance in the short term whilst the other longer term issues are being sorted out.  Unfortunately there is unlikely to be any legal aid available to you though.  You need to speak to one of our family law specialists - we offer an initial free half hour telephone consultation to outline your options.

By Kate Butler on Monday October 29, 2018

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