We asked eight of the divorce lawyers in the Woolley & Co team to share the advice they regularly give to separating parents. This video is the result.
Divorce & family lawyer in Birmingham, Rebecca Franklin:
“Take a deep breath before you respond to a text message or to an email and just have a think about what your child would like to do, would your child like to see their mother or father? Try and put the children first, so many times I have had clients say to me, Rebecca I was going to respond angrily to a request for contact or to a text message that upset me, but I took a deep breath and thought no, what would Rebecca like me to do.”
Divorce & family solicitor in Market Harborough, Kate Brooks:
“Sit the children down if at all possible, if you can do it together even better. From the start of the process let them know what’s going on but concentrate on trying to think what might be best for the kids and you won’t go too far wrong. “
Divorce & family solicitor in Sutton Coldfield, Richard England:
“The children need to understand that it isn’t their fault, I think it’s crucial that the children understand that because otherwise the danger is that they blame themselves and that has a negative impact on how they deal with the divorce or separation process.”
Divorce & family solicitor in Bedford, Tamara Glanvill:
“I think first of all – keep the children centre stage. It’s very easy when you are divorcing to only think of your own position and your own concerns and your own anxieties. I think the minute people do think about how it is going to impact the children they do adopt a slightly different position so they become more amenable to one another, they recognise the need to work together, to a common goal and it creates some form of agreement and once they have got one agreement, other things can flow from that.”
Divorce & family lawyer in St Neots, Abby Smith:
“It’s very important that they involve the children as much as possible in some of the discussions to make sure that, not telling them the adult issues, but making sure that they are not scared because a lot of research shows that children who don’t understand or don’t know what’s happening are more scared of the unknown.”
Divorce & family lawyer in Northampton, Kate Butler:
“I think the important thing for parents to remember is that their child is the product of both of them and how they handle their dispute and their fall out is going to meld the way that their child develops into an adult in the future so it’s really important to keep their interests in the forefront of their minds at all times.”
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