Tamara Glanvill, divorce solicitor Bedford
What advice do you give mums going through divorce? The first bit of advice that I would give to a mum going through divorce is not to use the children as a weapon. Whilst the mum might have feelings of hostility towards her ex, the children don’t. It’s really, really important that their relationship with him isn’t damaged.
The second bit of advice that I would give to a divorcing mum is don’t let the finances overwhelm them. It can be a very daunting task as there is a lot of information that you will be asked for and your solicitor can help you sort through that information or sometimes even a friend can help you but take it piece by piece and ask for help when you need it.
Third bit of advice that I would give to a mum divorcing would be not to be bullied into making a rash decision. It needs to be well thought out and you need to be comfortable with it. So take your time, take advice when you need it and don’t make any rash decisions.
My fourth piece of advice to a mother divorcing is if there are difficulties in negotiating what should happen to the children, when they should spend time with each parent and so on, do consider mediation because it is an opportunity for you to sit down and agree something together and can break a stalemate and help move the process on. If there are any mums who need some specific advice on separating then feel free to use my 30 minute free advice and I can do this on the phone or by Skype so please feel free to get in touch.