- Keeping arguments away from them and avoid criticism of the other parent.
- Being able to talk to the other parent about their needs (even though it may be hard sometimes)
- Allowing them to miss the other parent and make contact when they want to, even encouraging contact when you think they might want it.
- Recognise they have feelings which might be confusing and contradictory.
- Ask them what they think and listen to what they say (but do not make them responsible for decisions)
- Value them as developing people with their own friends and networks
- Remember they can cope with different rules so long as they know what to expect in each household.
- Be consistent about arrangements made and not letting them down
- Be flexible to their changing needs.
- KNOWING THEY LOVE YOU BOTH AND WANT TO BE ABLE TO EXPRESS THEIR LOVE
Courtesy of the Institute of Family Therapy and Mediation Service
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